Single and Rock At It

Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Thu Oct 29, 2009 5:32 pm

Elisabeth wrote:

1. If God told you that you were going to be non-single in a year (like if He said you'd start courting/dating in a year, be engaged less than 3 months later, and married less than 3 months after that - ER, don't have a heart attack at the speed of wedding-planning Razz

), what would you want to do in this year? What things would you want to learn to prepare for that life? What things would you want to conclude, wrap-up, etc? For example, I would want to study my mom's books on nutrition and pay off my loans...amongst many other things.

Hahaha, I've just seen this! Laughing Really Hard

Anyway, Julie, I think it's fine to want to get through college first without distractions, and especially without (horror!) having a child in the middle. We're all made in different ways and have different priority levels on which we place these things. I would totally be with you on this matter, as education is important to me and hence I have wanted to get all my degrees out of the way first. My fiance feels the same, and that's one of the reasons why we have had such a long dating/engagement period. If that's what you want, don't feel ashamed because other people put other things first! At the same time, it is still be good to be flexible to God's plans for your life though.

Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Thu Oct 29, 2009 5:49 pm

If I knew I was going to get married in a year, I would look for a job or two and start saving more money up. I would probably buy a few more things for my hope chest that I've been wanting to get. I would want to learn how to cook more things and learn more skills on being a housewife.

Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Thu Oct 29, 2009 6:39 pm

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If I knew I was going to get married in a year,
I would look for a job or two and start saving more money up. I would
probably buy a few more things for my hope chest that I've been wanting
to get. I would want to learn how to cook more things and learn more
skills on being a housewife.

Me too, I'd get some cute things, try to mature a bit more, prepare meself, get a job.

Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Thu Oct 29, 2009 6:41 pm

EnglishRose wrote:

Elisabeth wrote:

1. If God told you that you were going to be non-single in a year (like if He said you'd start courting/dating in a year, be engaged less than 3 months later, and married less than 3 months after that - ER, don't have a heart attack at the speed of wedding-planning Razz

), what would you want to do in this year? What things would you want to learn to prepare for that life? What things would you want to conclude, wrap-up, etc? For example, I would want to study my mom's books on nutrition and pay off my loans...amongst many other things.

Hahaha, I've just seen this! Laughing Really Hard

I thought you might like that. MrGreen

EnglishRose wrote:

Anyway, Julie, I think it's fine to want to get through college first without distractions, and especially without (horror!) having a child in the middle. We're all made in different ways and have different priority levels on which we place these things. I would totally be with you on this matter, as education is important to me and hence I have wanted to get all my degrees out of the way first. My fiance feels the same, and that's one of the reasons why we have had such a long dating/engagement period. If that's what you want, don't feel ashamed because other people put other things first! At the same time, it is still be good to be flexible to God's plans for your life though.

Precisely. Smile

No one should feel bad because he/she is pursuing the things that they believe God wants for them right now. If you think that college is where God wants you, then by all means go to college and follow that lead - without being distracted - until God gives another!

RebeccaMc wrote:

If I knew I was going to get married in a year, I would look for a job or two and start saving more money up. I would probably buy a few more things for my hope chest that I've been wanting to get. I would want to learn how to cook more things and learn more skills on being a housewife.

Mm-hmm...that's some of the things on my "If in a year I wasn't single" list. Smile

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Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Thu Oct 29, 2009 6:50 pm

Hmm, if I knew I was going to be married within a year, my dad would lock me in my room for five years.

I don't know what I'd do because I don't want to get married that soon.

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Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Thu Oct 29, 2009 8:03 pm

Julie Su wrote:

Hmm, if I knew I was going to be married within a year, my dad would lock me in my room for five years.

I don't know what I'd do because I don't want to get married that soon.

5 years.... I was always like " want to get married at 16!" Now I'm like thats only a year. And I don't know if I am mature enough!

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16??! Wow... my dream was 21... lol... God does have different plans.

How do you rock at being single?
Ready...

I don't think about being single, I just think about serving God. That's it. The oldies on the board know my take on ministry and marriage, but the way I see it, marriage should not change your ministry destination. So, I serve, and whenever God decides to throw a husband in there, I will take him, until then I just do what I am supposed to and let God handle the matchmaking... that's how you rock it.

Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Sat Oct 31, 2009 2:44 am

Julie Su wrote:

Hmm, if I knew I was going to be married within a year, my dad would lock me in my room for five years.

Hehe!

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Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Sat Oct 31, 2009 8:57 pm

I used to think someone was perfectly able to get married at 14-16. HAHA!!!! Razz

Now, I think 18 is a bit young but oh well that's what I'm planning for.

Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Sat Oct 31, 2009 8:59 pm

It's more of a maturity than an age, I think. Some girls are ready at 14-16. Smile

(I wasn't one of them!) Very Happy

Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Sat Oct 31, 2009 9:15 pm

oh my I don't.... I do believe its about maturity then age.. But theres no way a girl is ready for marriage at 14, 16 I can understand.. But wow your not physically or emotionally prepared yet for marriage at 14.

Subject: Re: Single and Rock At It Sat Oct 31, 2009 9:18 pm

Elisabeth wrote:

1. If God told you that you were going to be non-single in a year (like if He said you'd start courting/dating in a year, be engaged less than 3 months later, and married less than 3 months after that - ER, don't have a heart attack at the speed of wedding-planning Razz

), what would you want to do in this year? What things would you want to learn to prepare for that life? What things would you want to conclude, wrap-up, etc? For example, I would want to study my mom's books on nutrition and pay off my loans...amongst many other things.

2. If God told you that you would never marry, never date, and you were totally OK with that, how would you change how you're living? If you spend 6 hours a day writing letters to your future spouse, and God told you that you'd never marry, you'd probably stop doing that. Laughing

Maybe you'd write letters to God instead...

1. I would probably...umm...wow...never thought about it haha. Umm...I'd maybe buy a couple of Christian relationship books and never get around to reading them (I love books, but a lot of mine never end up getting read). Other than that, I'd just keep doing what I'm doing and enjoy it. Enjoy my immaturity while I can :-P

2. I'd probably be a little disappointed. Wouldn't really change much though. I probably wouldn't watch sweet movies like the Notebook or something like that coz I'd get sad :-P I'd save up, buy a house, and foster some children. Umm..not right now though. When I'm older.