And right after she posts, "keep it up" we stop posting.

Yep. OK. So we are single. We rock at it. HOW do we rock at it?

Whenever I was single, I tried to enjoy it. I made a point to try new things and focus on developing myself as a person which is good because now that I am happily not single, I've carried on a lot of those traits that I developed.

Use this time to figure out stuff about yourself

Kind of piggy-backing on what Sarah said...

There's a saying that goes around in Christian circles to "prepare like you're going to live forever, but live like you're going to die today"...or something like that. I think it might help us to rock at being single if we asked ourselves two questions:

1. If God told you that you were going to be non-single in a year (like if He said you'd start courting/dating in a year, be engaged less than 3 months later, and married less than 3 months after that - ER, don't have a heart attack at the speed of wedding-planning ), what would you want to do in this year? What things would you want to learn to prepare for that life? What things would you want to conclude, wrap-up, etc? For example, I would want to study my mom's books on nutrition and pay off my loans...amongst many other things.

2. If God told you that you would never marry, never date, and you were totally OK with that, how would you change how you're living? If you spend 6 hours a day writing letters to your future spouse, and God told you that you'd never marry, you'd probably stop doing that. Maybe you'd write letters to God instead...

I think these two questions together help us to use this time to prepare for marriage (Question 1) and live for God (Question 2). If we focused just on the first one, then we might be excellently prepared for marriage....but be wasting the years God has given us as single people. On the other hand, if we focused solely on the second question, then we would have had lots of experiences in these years, but have wasted the marriage-preparation time. For me, if I focused just on Question 1 I would drop out of school because when I am married and raising a family, I don't think I'll really have need of a college degree. However, because I need to focus on Question 1 as well, I'm staying in school and building my relationship with God...while studying nutrition and trying to pay off my loans.

(Of course, these things I've listed from my own life are just little portions of what I'm doing and working on....but...it gives the idea...and the whole list of my goals for this year was about two pages...so I figured I'd spare y'all that information. )

If I knew I was going to get married that fast, I wouldn't. I want to complete college and get a degree before I get married.

You'd be surprised how your time scale changes as you grow..I agree that it's a good goal, but don't be surprised if your goals alter a little bit when the right man comes along

Excellent points, Elisabeth!

Yea, I know. Everyone says, "Oh it'll change when you actually have a guy." I'm just hoping it doesn't change. I've heard too many stories of women who've had to drop out of college because they got pregnant. I don't want that. I don't want to have to worry about that.

And that's okay too. I'm nearly graduated from college with every intention of finishing regardless if I'm single or not.

I have nothing to tell you.

I tend to strive to be the best at whatever I do. Being single is one of those things.

im just not going to college that solves everything for me! I'll get my beautician license locally.